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My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

13.06.2025 10:49

My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

Instead, focus on taking care of, solving and healing what you are experiencing right now.

What they do doesn't matter and it's completely irrelevant to your healing process, though it’s valid to hate and judge them harshly for leaving the way they did.

This is why comparing yourself to them in terms of the healing process isn't going to help you in any way, shape or form.

Should I have left it alone and kept quiet? I came out as gay to my adult kids last week. Age 61 married 15 years, divorced for 20. I feel so guilty for ruining their lives by living a lie.

On their side, there has been a process of emotionally and mentally checking out while you were still together and while you were under the impression that everything is cool.

This is why you can't expect them to feel anything close to what you're feeling right now, because you and them are on a completely different stage in the healing process.

And during this process, they either started seeing someone new who they planned to secure as their rebound option or were busy creating their post-breakup plan.

How can the citizens of Russia accept the enormous difference between people? The richest 500 Russians own more than the poorest 99.8% of the entire Russian population combined. Why don't we see any protests?

This happened long or shortly before they physically left.

You both are on polar opposites of the scale.

Simply put, because they have been prepared and you weren't.

Can you share something that captivates you, whether it's an idea, a discovery, or an invention?

So, don't try to compete with them.

I.e. you thought that you had the perfect deal whereas they had already made up their mind and just weren't as emotionally invested in it as you were.